jerrythunder said:
so if anyone could please tell me which of those is the best i would be much obliged, thanks
oh, God, my head hurts.
Okay, this has been dealt with many times, but I'm gonna go over it again.
There is NO "best" martial art. Anyone who tries to tell you different is an idiot, or trying to sell you something. Usually classes to his martial arts school. They all have strengths and weaknesses. They all have morons teaching them, and they all have geniuses teaching them. Some styles will work better for YOU than others, because of your body type and your mentality. If you are tall and lanky, you may do better with something like Tae Kwan do. If you're short and stocky, you may do better with judo or wrestling. If you're an aggressive person, kickboxing or boxing may suit you better. If you're a defensive fighter by nature, you may want to go with aikido or hsing i/pa kua.
My advice to you is to try every school in your area, to include plain ol' boxing (a highly under-rated martial art system), and discover what styles you prefer, what techniques work better for you, and which school you enjoy most. That is highly important as you have to enjoy the atmosphere, or you won't want to go.
Some folks like to go to cookie-cutter McDojos, because they dig running around in white pyjamas, learninghow to be Japanese. Others want only schools with muscle-headed neanderthals wearing baggy sweat pants and wife-beaters practicing "real-world" techniques.
Try every school you can for a month. That should be enough time for you to decide if you dig the system taught, and the way it's being taught. Then move on to another school for a month. Once you've decided what you like the most stick with that school for a while, until you have a firm understanding of the system's basics. Then, branch out a bit, and find a completely different system, that complements the one you're in.
You want to find a personal style that lets you be comfortable with kicking, punching, throwing, grappling, and hand-held weapons. And you want to learn how to both use all of the above, and defend against them.
Some styles will teach you how to do all of that, others will claim to, and most will say you don't need anyting else. Trust me, you want two different systems under your belt: one that specializes in striking, and one that specializes in grappling. But that comes with time. First, find a school you dig, dude.